Disturbing Signs of Emotionally Abusive Partner

Category : Health & Beauty
Posted By : AmnaAnees
Posted Date : 03 Apr 2019 00:14 hrs

Abusive-relationshipEnjoying a happy and healthy relationship requires positive involvement from both partners, else an upsetting situation can impart devastating effects on your emotional and psychological health. Let's discuss a few disturbing signs of an emotionally abusive partner in light of the opinions from the relationship experts and psychotherapist, and try to be more educated, confident, and brave to handle the complicated situations of life.

•    Always Criticizing You on Your Physical Appearance

Being insulted or felt little about a physical appearance by your partner is definitely one of the most disturbing things both emotionally and psychologically. It can ruin not only your relationship silently but can also destroy your personality. Psychotherapist Christine Scott Hudson addresses such issue saying, " A partner who is fixated on controlling your body through criticisms, insults, diet, exercise, etc. may be emotionally abusive, they may be trying to get you to follow their orders, establishing control and emotional dominance through positioning themselves as the expert and you as the underlying. It is a power dynamic that is not typically healthy in most relationships. You and you alone should be in control of what you eat, how much you exercise, how you work out, and what you wear to have real agency over your own body."

•    Critically Analyzing Every Signal Thing

Being egoistic is one big problem, but some people politely and silently bring "I" in the everyday matters that it became hard to live up to their expectations, as, as a matter of fact only they themselves can do everything best, so it is impossible to please them. Therapeutic relationship coach and renowned psychotherapist Rachel Wright from Wright Wellness Centre" An emotionally abusive partner will focus on your flaws and loves to pick them out, whether you're alone or in front of other people, Whether it's your weight, how you speak, the TV shows you watch, how you dress, your hobbies — they'll find anything to bring you down."

•    Disrespectful Towards Boundaries - Physical, Emotional or Social

Commonly, it is perceived that partners must be like an open book for each other, and there be no boundaries between the two. Well, it sure is true but to a certain point, at a specific level. As a person has some personal boundaries of its own being a human that must be respected by everyone. Relationship expert Amica Graber describe the significance of making boundaries to build a healthy and happy relationship saying, " In the early days of a relationship, this may appear playful, For example, tickling you after you’ve told them to stop, or standing too close. Once they’ve realized that they can overstep your boundaries without consequence, they’ll often ignore them altogether."

•    Always Pinpointing Where to and With Whom Spend Time

Sure, it is quite common to have some favorite people and a few annoying people in your social circle, both in family and friends. And there surely be some people who are friends with you but not with your partner and vice versa. What not okay is dictating your partner to whom he/ she should spend time with or even talk to. This is definitely one of the major disturbing signs of an emotionally abusive partner who enforce on you to start prioritizing people as per his/ her likings. Graber says "The modus operandi of an emotional abuser involves isolating their victim from their friends and family, This makes it harder for the abused to recognize that their partner’s behavior isn’t normal or acceptable. Early into a relationship, an emotional abuser will look for ways to drive a wedge between the victim and their circle of support. Typically, the abuser may say things like, 'I don’t like how you act around X' or drop thinly veiled insults about your loved ones. This can escalate into spreading lies about them, or punishing you when you spend time with them."

•    Crushing Ambitious Dreams and High Hopes for Future

Discouraging attitude towards partner's abilities to achieve a higher position in his/ her life ruin them emotionally and destroy their mental capabilities. A healthy relationship accounts for being supportive, helpful and encouraging to achieve greatly in life. Christine Hudson puts light on this matter saying " Emotionally abusive partners tend to spend a great deal of time doubting your dreams, raining on your parade, and joy-crushing, After spending time with them, you may start to doubt yourself. They dream-crush to keep you from shining too brightly. They are afraid that if you shine, your sparkle may attract other people, bigger opportunities, or greener pastures. Keeping you feeling small helps quell their own anxiety about your potential to realize your own worth, leave them for someone who treats you better, and get the heck out of dodge."

•    Confiding others in the Dark Space of Personal Insecurities

Being a partner means trying to fade the negative aspects of life and create happy moments with your partner. This includes getting rid of your insecurities as well as making your partner feel confident as well. Fueling your insecurities on your partner will never let you enjoy the happy parts of your life, and will also keep your partner in the darkness of despair and dismay forever. Hudson says "If you have revealed a vulnerability to your partner, such as somebody consciousness or growing up feeling like you weren't smart enough, and then your partner uses those vulnerabilities to tease you, they are demonstrating that they are not an emotionally safe person Our partners are supposed to be our encouragers. Our partners are supposed to be a safe place to land. Our relationship should be the place where we are lifted up. One way to tell if your partner is an emotionally safe person is to ask yourself: would you feel comfortable telling them something you feel ashamed of? Can they be trusted with that kind of information?"

There you have it. If you are experiencing even a slight incidence of any of these symptoms in your relationship, then it will be great to sit down with your partner and discuss it.

By Amna A. for Ezega Blogs

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