Signs of an Unhappy Marriage

Category : Health & Beauty
Posted By : AmnaAnees
Posted Date : 20 Jun 2019 12:38 hrs

Unhappy-marriageLeaving a marital relationship, regardless of the years of being together, feels scary, uncertain, and terrifying. Nonetheless, being in a violent relationship, which can be of physical or mental abuse, can be more devastating. Still, a lot of people compromise and keep on living a fragile and tormenting relationship. Undoubtedly, this is not a healthy practice. it is extremely important to know the signs of an unhappy marriage, thus to make a wise decision for the sake of your own content and satisfaction.

Here, this read will definitely help you out in figuring out your marital life!

•    Having No Sexual  Relationship with Your Partner

With the passage of time, most of the couple become distant and forget to show affection. Having a good physical relationship is exceptionally important in any marriage. But, in one of you is avoiding making love, then mark a red flag on it. Surely, sexual intimacy is not the guarantee of being happy and in a healthy relationship. But the loss of physical touch is certainly a big sign of falling marriage. If this is the case with you, then it is the time to work things out.

•    One of You is Criticizing the other All the Time

Well, after reading this point some of you would want to debate on the vitality of constructive criticism. Sure, being expressive with your partner and letting them know where they have made mistake can be really helpful. However, criticism just for the sake of criticism is absolutely intolerable. Undoubtedly, when any sort of negative comments from your become a norm, then it is obvious that things will become excessively annoying and unbearable. Constant criticism, whether constructive or not can be really hurtful.

Most of the people are unable to understand that your words and the tone of your voice can really make or break any sort of relationship. Robin Milhausen, Associate Chair at the Department of Family Relations and Applied Nutrition at the University of Guelph says, “The way you criticize is the first thing to look out for. Of course, we’re all going to complain, but there are ways to complain that aren’t personal attacks.”

•    An Uprise of Contempt, Disrespect, and Annoyance 

This is one of the major signs of an unhappy marriage. When you two communicate with each other more in a sarcastic manner and once in a while in a normal tone, plus both of you are unable to understand what the other person is concerned about, then there are pretty clear chances that your marriage is in trouble and really need careful handling. Interestingly, such contempt, or the feeling of disrespect and belittling the other person arises when the relationship hot ruptured due to either infidelity or any sort of secrecy. 

Robin Milhausen described the hidden annoyance and after effects of this behavior perfectly as, “Contempt is hard to come back from, It’s not ethical to behave in hurtful, cruel ways with your partner, and you shouldn't be treated that way either.”

The only way with which you can still work out your marriage is by discussing the root cause of this disgusting disruption in the marriage. Things cannot move on positively in a streamlined manner unless or until both of you have completely put out yourself in front of each other. The only hope lies in being honest and true to yourself and of course with your partner. Because, certainly, contempt cannot be cured unless you do not know what has started it.

•    Lack of Tender Communication with an Increase of Defensive Arguments

Lack or total absence of healthy conversation with your partner can be really frustrating. If you are starting a conversation and without pondering for even a little bit, your partner becomes defensive and find an excuse, then it shows his/ her lack of responsibility.

Robin Milhausen has perfectly explained this sort of situation by saying that, “That's another indication that your marriage might not last, You need everyone at the table acknowledging their own your part in the problems. When you’re defensive, there’s nowhere to build."

•    Both Partners Are Avoiding to Face Each Other

Are you spending more time in the office or randomly walking on the streets after work, just to avoid going home? If yes, then it put the question on your ease of togetherness with your partner. As it seems, you do not want to face your partner due to some reasons. When you are supposed to chill out, relax in your pajamas and enjoy great family time, you are aimlessly wondering in your office, shopping places or streets. This shows your lack of satisfaction and interest in your partner. And for sure, your state of being unhappy in your marital relationship.

•    Having Physical Trauma

Every living being needs love, kindness, and care to live, prosper and, strive. If you are always being yelled at, criticized, or tortured in one or another way, your mind and body will also respond in the form of negative emotions. People, especially women, who are sacrificing their lives and are living in an unhealthy relationship, are unable to relax and they can feel clear signs of tension, stress, and trauma within their body. Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, an internationally acclaimed clinical and consulting psychotherapist explained this physical trauma as, 
“An unhappy marriage chronically feels bad. It’s like a cold that lingers, leaving you drained and vulnerable, Symptoms can include severe headaches, diarrhea, constipation, nausea, neck, and back pain. Many of my patients who suffer from depression claim they're constantly fatigued, while those who have anxiety report insomnia. I even treated one middle-aged woman who carried such anger towards her husband that she often felt her skin was crawling with ants."

These are some of the most common signs and symptoms of an unhealthy relationship, that are screaming to that your marriage is not working at a normal pace. Read these signals at the right time, in order to avoid harsh circumstances.

We wish you a happy, healthy and prosperous life among your loved ones!

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